Well, I’ve enjoyed the comments so far. Some of them have been very good. I liked Eva’s…(that’s my mother for those of you who didnt know). I have a question for you, especially all you married people out there. What is the best way to end an argument with your spouse? Be honest! Let say you are fighting and it gets to the point of silliness and you just want to end it. What do you do? How does that work? I am interested in argument ending strategies.
If it was me, and I was able to swallow some pride, I would tell the other person they were right and I am sorry (not I am sorry you feel that way – its a cop out. (i dont believe in saying “i was wrong”unless the circumstances REALLY need to dictate blame on someone. I like your comments, especially from strangers.
I would say that most fighting in marriage is over petty things – There were two ways that I preferred to end arguments. When it got to the point of silliness and it obviously wasn’t getting anywhere the next thing said by him was answered by me saying, "That deserves a kiss." I knew he was ready to end the argument when he actually responded to that. OR, there is the good ‘ol nose to nose or cheek to cheek singing, "When there’s love at home" That itself would get us laughing as well. (This also works great for parents with siblings who are fighting 🙂
ooooh- singing of Love at Home by my mother used to make me sooo mad as a kid 😉 I agree with Maria- a hug or a kiss is a good way to just break the tension!
It’s very rare I end an argument, I have to get my point across because I feel that he just doesn’t get it. Mark doesn’t like to argue so it’s rare but when we do he’ll just stop talking and look at me then when I’ve finished and he’s still silent I’ll ask if he’s mad at me and he’ll say "no, i just figure you needed to blow off steam so I stopped talking."
If one of the people asks for some time alone- say 30 minutes to go for a walk or to just go think, for goodness sakes, give it to ’em!
Not married, and I suck at ending arguments…still working on that trick. My Mom would make my sister and I sing our arguments. The argument ended right when she would mention it. I don’t know if that really fixed anything. Saying sorry is good on your part, but the biggest thing I have found is that I need to be willing to forgive the other person, even if they are wrong or did something wrong. You will never get anywhere if you can’t forgive.
A hug and a kiss will do wonders:)