Took the day off and just went out to shoot for the sake of shooting. Not something I get to do much of anymore, but I greatly enjoyed it. I feel sometimes with all the work that it takes to produce a DVD, arrange workshops, etc, its easy to get disconnected and forget how much fun photography can be. I spent a good 2 hours and got so involved with the landscape I dont think I made it more than 200 feet from my car.
I had a negative experience today and I cant find any good reason to share it with you, so I wont.
I have found that I tend to avoid people that constantly spew out negativity. I would much rather be alone. If something bad happens to me, I try to look at it as an opportunity to learn, but sometimes negative things happen just because. If there is a lesson learned, some insight, warning, pre-caution, etc, thats different, but negativity for the sake of negativity is a complete waste of time. No one wants to hear about some bird pooping on your window, you getting upset at your co-worker, in-law problems, you losing your lens cap, the fact the yes its hot outside, or even a headache you may have.
If you dont like your situation, change it.
Choosing not to change your current situation, is the same as choosing your current situation.
If you choose not to do something about your problem, then you really don’t have a right to complain about it.
If you choose to do something about your problem, then you already know that talking about it just for the sake of talking about it accomplishes nothing.
f22, 1/6″ – Paintballer Pro – Blitz
As for me, I am thankful I have friends that do let me talk out loud. When I am having a hard time making a decision, I usually find the answer when I am talking to somebody vs. trying to figure out a solution in my head. Recently I had to come up with a plan to give me an option I didn’t think I had. In the process of listening to myself and hearing what a friend had to say, I was able to make a final decision. Things seem a little different when I hear the sound of my own voice and I see and hear the reaction of a friend. There is a trade off. In turn I listen to my friends as well. Now if it is in regards to the same thing over and over again and they are not trying to come up with a solution, then it gets old.
I like the groove in the lettering on the wall, very nice. Good comments too.
Thank you Michael! Your inspirational posts always come when I need it most. Normally I think the same way you do but sometimes I get lost and need a reminder. It was funny because I woke up this morning with a very clear head knowing what I had to do to change the situation that has been making me unhappy for the last two weeks then I read your post and it was validation that I am going in the right direction again.
If all the people around me were positive people who never talked about the problems in their lives, discouragements, issues, relationships, etc…I’d think one of 3 things 1. I’ve lost my compassion and they’re not comfortable letting me see their real lives and their real selves 2. They live in a fairytale world, in denial that thier life is less than perfect or 3. They’re private and won’t let anyone in…at least not me. Positive people have problems too. I should know…I am one. But to think someone would avoid me because I say out loud that I have a headache….or a problem with my mother-in-law…. that’s sad….
Sometimes, people just need to talk, seeking a compassionate ear….wise counsel….. understanding… help… insight… caring… sympathy…..
Think what Michael is talking about is "Negativity for the sake of negativity"- as he wrote. I side with him on this, which is different than helping, listening to some one or problem solving with a friend. "Negativity for the sake of negativity" means just that…there is no other purpose to it other than to be negative and bring others down.
Ron is right….."negativity for the sake of negativity"…..there are people out there who just live to complain….about whatever! That’s what he’s talking about….not your average person who needs a shoulder to cry on……
yes sorry for the confusion- I was speaking of chronic complainers, especially those who constant whine about their problems and never do anything about it.
I think negative people are negative because they would then have nothing to say