kim (05.14.09, 11:36 PM): I think negative people are negative because they would then have nothing to say

michael andrew (05.12.09, 4:15 PM): yes sorry for the confusion- I was speaking of chronic complainers, especially those who constant whine about their problems and never do anything about it.

Diane (05.12.09, 6:50 AM): Ron is right....."negativity for the sake of negativity".....there are people out there who just live to complain....about whatever! That's what he's talking about....not your average person who needs a shoulder to cry on......

Ron P (05.11.09, 11:31 PM): Think what Michael is talking about is "Negativity for the sake of negativity"- as he wrote. I side with him on this, which is different than helping, listening to some one or problem solving with a friend. "Negativity for the sake of negativity" means just that...there is no other purpose to it other than to be negative and bring others down.

Kathy (05.11.09, 9:27 PM): Sometimes, people just need to talk, seeking a compassionate ear....wise counsel..... understanding... help... insight... caring... sympathy.....

Kim (05.11.09, 9:19 PM): If all the people around me were positive people who never talked about the problems in their lives, discouragements, issues, relationships, etc...I'd think one of 3 things 1. I've lost my compassion and they're not comfortable letting me see their real lives and their real selves 2. They live in a fairytale world, in denial that thier life is less than perfect or 3. They're private and won't let anyone in...at least not me. Positive people have problems too. I should know...I am one. But to think someone would avoid me because I say out loud that I have a headache....or a problem with my mother-in-law.... that's sad....

Lauri (05.11.09, 9:27 AM): Thank you Michael! Your inspirational posts always come when I need it most. Normally I think the same way you do but sometimes I get lost and need a reminder. It was funny because I woke up this morning with a very clear head knowing what I had to do to change the situation that has been making me unhappy for the last two weeks then I read your post and it was validation that I am going in the right direction again.

Boz (05.11.09, 9:22 AM): I like the groove in the lettering on the wall, very nice. Good comments too.

Kjersti (05.11.09, 3:42 AM): As for me, I am thankful I have friends that do let me talk out loud. When I am having a hard time making a decision, I usually find the answer when I am talking to somebody vs. trying to figure out a solution in my head. Recently I had to come up with a plan to give me an option I didn't think I had. In the process of listening to myself and hearing what a friend had to say, I was able to make a final decision. Things seem a little different when I hear the sound of my own voice and I see and hear the reaction of a friend. There is a trade off. In turn I listen to my friends as well. Now if it is in regards to the same thing over and over again and they are not trying to come up with a solution, then it gets old.