An individual, through carelessness hurts a loved one. Initially, he is unaware any injury occurred and had no intention to injure the other, yet it did happen. Seeing his actions were the cause of the injury he says “Oops…sorry about that….it was an accident.”
After an unspecified amount of time, the incident repeats itself. In fact, the incident repeats itself so consistently that it becomes reasonably predictable, where one individual is constantly being hurt, and the other apologizes, but credits it as an “accident”.
Who is at fault?
What are the most important criteria in determining this?
What would the correct resolution be?
Again, 5 responses and I will tell you what I think. I enjoy hearing what you have to say….it gets me thinking.
An individual, through carelessness hurts a loved one. Initially, he is unaware any injury occurred and had no intention to injure the other, yet it did happen. Seeing his actions were the cause of the injury he says “Oops…sorry about that….it was an accident.”
After an unspecified amount of time, the incident repeats itself. In fact, the incident repeats itself so consistently that it becomes reasonably predictable, where one individual is constantly being hurt, and the other apologizes, but credits it as an “accident”.
Who is at fault?
What are the most important criteria in determining this?
What would the correct resolution be?
Again, 5 responses and I will tell you what I think. I enjoy hearing what you have to say….it gets me thinking.
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. If it’s really detrimental, the relationship would most likely need to be ended.
I have to agree…if you keep allowing yourself to be put in that situation then you are asking to be hurt…why tempt fate with you can remove yourself from the situation and solve both problems at once…however the accidenter needs to actually take responsibility for their actions, but since in your example they don’t…get rid of them.
What type of injury? Physical or just words?
I think both are at fault, the one for hurting, the other for allowing it to continue. I have been on both sides of the boat. The problem with the careless accidenter, at least, in my case, is that I thought (1) it was just an accident and (2) the person getting hurt understood that it was just an accident. Therefore I never made a course of action to avoid hurting them again. The person getting hurt is not demanding that the other stop hurting them. Even if the ‘hurt-er’ is sincerely not trying to injure the ‘hurt-ee’, well, look at it as though they were physically injuring the other. You wouldn’t or shouldn’t allow someone to ‘accidentally’ cut off your fingers because they were just messing around with scissors. In the same way, you shouldn’t allow someone to continue to hurt you. The resolution: well, they could remove themselves from each other, avoiding any future confrontations, but that doesn’t really solve or help ANYTHING as I know too well. OR they can talk it out, one demanding the action be stopped, the other figuring out a game plan to avoid the hurt, and then they can follow up on it. I am sure there are other ways to resolve the issue that are perhaps more feasible or effective. In the midst of all of this, the Atonement plays a large role as well. There’s my essay.
I just tend to think of something from the "seven habits of highly effective people" by stephen covey. It says in there that in your relationships with others, you need to make sure it is a win/win situation for you always. You need to look out for yourself – if you feel like you are getting burned (a lot) then, you need to be responsible for yourself and distance yourself from that person. Sure, things happen and feelings get hurt – but, if it’s a constant thing, you need to change your situation. It might sound selfish – but there should be no other choice for you. No, lose/win. No, win/lose. No, lose/lose. It’s Win/Win or NO DEAL. That’s my two cents.