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Talking yourself out of emotion
Have you ever had an impulsive feeling for something that you couldn’t quite explain, and in your mind you see no other option but to have that thing? Almost as if you feel something terrible will happen if you don’t get it/do it, etc? I remember feeling it especially strong as a child around Christmas time.
The most common instance I feel it now, is when I need to make a trip to the post office (which is frequently). For some reason, I feel, like I have to go to the post office as soon as possible, but when in reality I can wait a few days. I have also felt the same impression when I am hungry for certain types of foods; somewhere it becomes an emotional issue.
I think if we regularly eat in an emotional way, we will be eating for the wrong reasons.
There was an article recently about a scientist who made bowls that had undetectable soup lines built into them that would slowly refill as his subjects were eating. 74% of them over ate, and he concluded that most people do not stop eating when they are full, but rather based on what they see. Think about that, most of the time we are judging our sense of hunger by seeing the food “disappear”- such as an empty bowl. If it doesn’t disappear when we think it should…we believe ourselves to still be hungry.
Humans tend to make nearly all their decisions based on emotions. True we may “calculate” something out, but even then, the calculation “feels” good. I don’t think emotions are a great way to make decisions- ask any inmate in a prison. Still we all do it.
What am I getting to?
I’ve learned that when I feel this emotional, impulsive feeling for something, I can sit down and talk myself out of it. The best way, is to project the consequences in not getting it and realize you can live fine without it. It is strange to talk yourself out of emotion- yet also quite useful if you know you can do it.
Please tell me if you have ever noticed this is your own life…an impulsive desire for something, that gives you the impression you cant live without it, when in reality…..its an illusion.