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The Four Kinds of People “Big Doers” Must Avoid At All Costs
My upcoming book on Efficiency is in the hands of test readers, I hope it will be ready before the Thanksgiving or Christmas 2016. I have about 3 dozen chapters that didn’t make it into the current draft, including this one I am about to share. Hopefully I can continue to post these, as I feel they are valuable, even though they didn’t make the final cut.
In order to pull off big ideas and not just think or talk about them, you have to be very careful about who you let into your circle of trust.
I cannot state how important it is to be careful about whom you choose to work with, there is "weeding" that must go on continually. While it sounds brutal, it is critical to successful collaboration. Any team is only as strong as it's weakest link. In the event you weed out everyone, it is always better to be alone than in bad company.
Here are the four types of people I avoid doing business or collaborating with:
1. Individuals Who See all Thoughts as Being the Same Size –There are different sizes of thinking, but we all gravitate towards an average. (There is a huge chapter on how to measure thought size in my book). When you meet someone who believes that all thoughts are the same size, it is usually an indicator that they are going to be ready to go to war with you over the tiniest of details. Minutia is as important to them as the biggest of ideas and you wont be able to convince them otherwise, even when pointing it out directly. Unfortunately, these people are going to waste a lot of your time. You want those in your corner who can differentiate between small and large thoughts and reject the waste involved with little thoughts, keeping the big picture in mind.
2. The Risk Adverse – All people are capable of having (and talking endlessly about) big ideas. The courage to bring those big thoughts to fruition is the key differentiating factor between dreamers and doers. An easier way to differentiate between the dreamers and doers is to simply observe how ready an individual is to sacrifice something valuable to get what they want. Bringing big ideas to life requires making decisions where the outcome is not certain, and without boldness in the face of possible, big ideas cannot come to pass, otherwise, everyone would be capable. The fear of risk is a barrier that must be defeated to be a big doer. Surround yourself with those who hurdle, smash through, obliterate, laugh at this barrier and you too will gain confidence to do the same.
3. Oath Breakers - The easiest way to know if you can trust someone is to measure their sincerity. If they consistently make promises and fall short, it is probably a good indication they aren’t often sincere, and therefore cannot be trusted. Why in the world would you want any kind of relationship with someone you do not trust, let alone one where finances are involved?
4. Coat Tail Riders - If being in business is like being in a foxhole, you want the guy next to you to be a lion, just as much as he expects you to be one. Someone who likes to ride coat tails, is a person who wants to be part of your success, but is less willing to bring his or her own value to the table. You wont see as many of these before success is found, but once it is, they will crawl out of the woodworks. Judge potential partners on what they have done on their own and what they bring to the table, not so much if they are a friend, relative or someone you like. Find collaborators and partners who have had success standing on their own two feet.
Ultimately, you alone are responsible for how much contact and access you enjoy with others. Collaborating is critical to pulling off big actions, and your partners strength and mindset cannot be underestimated. Choose wisely, as they are not equal and finding the right ones will make all the difference.
Michael The Maven is a producer, director of photography, entrepreneur, photography instructor and productivity coach. His Efficiency Playbook is in test reading and will be available for purchase Winter of 2016.