First let me apologize for not getting this up sooner, having some internet issues. Picking up where I left off, Friday night the Forester family and a few friends, including Michael Madsen, Leah, Loren and Canella Tinker took 2 charter buses to Pope Air Force Base in North Carolina to attend services provided by Mark’s 21st Special Tactics Squadron.
I have had a lot of interaction with different branches of the Armed Forces throughout my life, and while I have always been impressed by all of them, none have made the impression on my mind as the 21st STS has. Words are inadequate to appropriately convey the genuine sincerity, love and sense of ‘family’ they effectively communicated. Even as close friend to Mark, I felt immediately accepted…almost like I was adopted into a new family and I felt like I belonged there with them. Hard to explain. Madsen and I talked about this- we were so impressed with how tight knit and sincere they were. These men are probably the most incredible soldiers I have met, and they were amazingly humble. Again you can see how Im struggling to express myself about this. First let me apologize for not getting this up sooner, having some internet issues. Picking up where I left off, Friday night the Forester family and a few friends, including Michael Madsen, Leah, Loren and Canella Tinker took 2 charter buses to Pope Air Force Base in North Carolina to attend services provided by Mark’s 21st Special Tactics Squadron.
I have had a lot of interaction with different branches of the Armed Forces throughout my life, and while I have always been impressed by all of them, none have made the impression on my mind as the 21st STS has. Words are inadequate to appropriately convey the genuine sincerity, love and sense of ‘family’ they effectively communicated. Even as close friend to Mark, I felt immediately accepted…almost like I was adopted into a new family and I felt like I belonged there with them. Hard to explain. Madsen and I talked about this- we were so impressed with how tight knit and sincere they were. These men are probably the most incredible soldiers I have met, and they were amazingly humble. Again you can see how Im struggling to express myself about this. After arriving, we were able to get cleaned up and were then taken to tour some of the facilities. I asked for permission to take pictures to share with you and was given the ok, so I hope this is cool. If someone with the 21st STS see’s something that is “mucho no beuno” as Mark would say, please let me know, but I think we are good. I think most of you will find this fascinating. The first stop we took was to visit Mark’s “Cage”. It is essentially his footlocker where he stored his gear and some of his personal belongings. GZ and VS were there to show us around. It was sad, humbling and healing to see Mark’s Cage. There was a message board where many other controllers wrote farewell messages. Mark had left his own note at the top, the ATT stands for “At This Time”.Next we went over to the team room. We got to see the gym where Mark worked out. It was good to talk with many soldiers who worked with Mark and were familiar with him personally as well as professionally. Next we went to the 21st STS building.
We had a quick lunch in a meeting room where the “Wall of Honor” is. You will notice the one plaque covered in black cloth.I am not exactly certain what the name of the 3 Star General was, but it seemed obvious to me this was the head-head honcho- I could be mistaken, but he was the only guy I saw with 3 Stars on his shoulder. He presented Mark’s Parents with Commander Coins, they were beautiful. He also had many stories about the capabilities of Combat Controllers and some of the heroic battles they had been in. Some of the stories, like GZ’s seemed like something from a movie, but these were real. The Wall of Honor had a dozen or so plaques of Combat Controller’s medals with stories of incredible heroism and leadership. If someone made a book with just these soldiers’ stories it would be a best seller. Just jaw dropping incredible stuff. I hope to share one or two of these about Mark when the time is right.I cannot look at Mark’s brother David without seeing Mark. It actually brings me a lot of comfort to look at him and remember how Mark was. The 21st also let us see one of the simulator’s used to train combat controllers. It looked like a confusing system, like there were a ton of codes, rules and protocols that needed to be commanded quickly and effectively in a changing environment.
There was also a weapons simulation room where there were different types of simulating weapons. I wasn’t as impressed with this simulator in terms of pure action as I would be with something like Modern Warfare, but it felt like this room was more about correctly re-loading and accurately using many different types of weapon systems in a controlled environment that could measure different variables (response times, accuracy, etc) of each soldier. The younger kids seemed to enjoy this room the most. The services were held in a hangar, complete with GINORMOUS American Flag, felt like something out of a movie. Awesome talks from Mark’s leaders. I really liked this one who we will call “Eddie”. He went out of his way to make me feel welcome and appreciated. He is a genuinely great and charismatic leader. “Chief” is the guy in charge of all the 21st. He is a no nonsense, all business type of soldier. He exuded professionalism and commanded respect. Robert gave another great talk. I have been very impressed with him. He was a great friend to Mark.We also were read a letter from another of Mark’s Best friend’s “YK” who who is still deployed. I know it hurt to not be there man, I hope these images can offer you a sense of healing and closure. While you were not there physically, you were there in spirit and your words about Mark were heard by all present. Mark’s family was presented with several Medal’s, including a Bronze Star with Valor and a Purple Heart. The Bronze Star he earned was for a battle in August where if I am not mistaken, 3 members of his team were injured. Thad and family met one of these men who told them “I would not be alive today if it wasn’t for Mark Forester” and then recounted how, while sedated, he watched the 2 bombs delivered under Mark’s control which saved the unit, allowed them to safely extract and live to fight another day.
Mark’s combined efforts with his team accounted for ~37 enemy kills that day. When you account for the fact that this was one of many battles these guys engage in, you realize what an important and vital role they play. Several of them have done many tours in both Iraq and Afghanistan. It is possible there may be one more medal on the way for Mark’s efforts on his last day, but I must say I don’t know anything about this and am only speculating.
A “Shadow Box” containing Mark’s ribbons, awards, and beret was also presented to the family.Afterwards we grabbed an early dinner with the 21st, whose wives prepared the pot luck meal. More pushups, this time Mark’s Nephews jumped in. Little Nick said at least 10 times on the way home: “I’m going to be an Air Force Combat Controller.” One of the soldiers in another Squadron presented this amazing image of Mark which he drew in 2 days (it usually takes him up to a week). I will be adding a link if anyone wants to order a copy of it on the tribute page soon.We were also given these black remembrance bracelets. I love mine and have worn it everyday since.Robert joined us for dinner and I grabbed this picture of him with Mark’s parents.
Eddie invited us back upstairs to watch the video they had prepared (its on the tribute page). It was the only time on Saturday I cried like a baby. We were then walked back to the Wall of Honor where they unveiled Mark’s plaque. It brought me a tremendous sense of pride and respect for Mark. Man….he did it right.On the way back to the buses, we were able to stop at the Combat Controller School. This is where Mark received the core of his instruction. It was a fascinating place. The downstairs was somewhat of a museum explaining the role and history of combat controllers. We also got to see the Class Plaques….and then went to “The Pit” and pool where students train. It was truly such an awesome experience to spend the day with the 21st. They were amazing and I know Mark’s family will never forget it. Went back to the buses and headed back to Alabama that night. Ray and Pat were understandably exhausted.I am in Haleyville now with Ray and Pat just helping out with little things. They are some of the most gentle, kind, and warm people you will ever meet and are still grieving and in the healing process. My heart really aches for them and it I can see it will take some time. I hope to someday be half the man and father Ray is and find a woman like Pat (he hit a homerun with her). Just awesome, awesome people- it is mostly hard and somewhat rewarding to watch them work through this. I am treasuring the little stories and memories they share about Mark. They are tenderhearted and I am seeing their strength growing.
I apologize if I am behind on some of the tribute page (links, articles and stories) but will try to get caught up tomorrow. Having some internet problems but we will get them worked out. If there is anything I can communicate or give to Mark’s Parents, please feel free to contact me directly.
I didn’t know Mark or his family…..but after reading every word of your posts, and looking carefully at each and every picture, I feel like I know them a little bit. I am truly saddened by the loss of another one of our countries heros. He seemed like such a great man. Without men and women like Mark, what would our country be like? I know this, it wouldn’t be the America that I know and love. Giving his life to defend our freedom……so many people take it for granted, but Mark’s family will live with this every day for the rest of their lives. If Mark’s family ever happens to read my comments, I can’t say enough how sad I am for you, and also how grateful I am for your sacrifice. May God bless your family.
Thank you again Mike. I don’t know how many times I can say that to you. It has been so therapeutic for Mr to be able to read all these series and experiences with the services and helped me be able to grieve for my friend. My love goes out to Marks family. Burying a child is one of the hardest things to have to do as a parent and I did have my daughter for as long as they had Mark. I am grateful for Mark’s example of selfless service, his heroism and his unwavering faith to do what he was called to do.
I am a certified grief counselor, among other things, and I can tell you that what you have done as helped so many of us work through the grieving process. Everyone who loved Mark and his family want to do something for them but you have actually done something they will treasure and has helped in healing all of us. It will still take while but we can always go to your blog and relive these beautiful moment and tributes to Mark. Glad you are there for them and I, too. see so much of Mark in David. Thanks for taking us to Pope. John has taken all this in too. He looks at everything you have posted…just so you know.
I can’t tell you how thankful I am for all the pictures, captions, stories, etc. that you have shared. It has made dealing with this a little easier, and the pictures have helped give me a sense of closure. I really appreciate all the time and effort you have put into this. Mark is an amazing person and I am grateful for the knowledge that one day I will be able to thank him myself.
What an amazing experience for the family, and they have been treated so well by Mark’s other "family" abroad and in NC. I loved seeing all of your pictures. You are right, Pat and Ray are incredible parents, very humble and loving. And they’ve raised some special people.
Great tribute. I wanted to second your thoughts regarding Mark’s parents – interacting with them during last weekend is one of my lasting impressions from the funeral. Ray said something to me during our goodbye that I think many of us can relate to, "I am so proud of all my boys. I knew that Mark was a great guy, but I did not now how great." Mike, your posts are giving us all a sense of just how great a man Mark was and reminding each of us what it means to be a dedicated son/daughter, a devoted Christian, and a true patriot. Like the many others before me, thank you for taking the time and energy to create these blog posts.
Thank you so much for this wonderful tribute to Mark. It was a trying and healing day for us all.
Michael, Thank you so much for all of your great work. I met you at the funeral. The Forester’s are great people and I am proud to say I am from Haleyville, Al. This town is proud of Mark and all he has given for our freedom. I really appreciate you for doing this, it help us all to know that the family was treated so well. There is something very healing in sharing our grief. The old saying it takes a village to raise a child is in reverse here. Sometimes the child teaches the village how how live. He has taught us all to be true, dedicated, fearless, to always stand up for what is right and to never waver in your faith. God Bless you all!
They are some of the finest people you will ever meet. Thank you for the updates and pictures of the heroic events that he endured,
Mike, just wanted to say think you for sharing the pictures with everyone. I can’t say enough how much it means to those of us who weren’t able to make it home for the memorial. Mark was a couple of classes behind me in training and he was one of the greatest men that I had the pleasure of knowing, he will be greatly missed and never forgotten.
Nice job Mike. And Brandi, I met your dad and he was very nice and we enjoyed having him around. I have met your brother Johnny also.
Great pics and glad people are getting to know Mark a little better thru this.
I wanted to thank you for bringing Mark a little bit closer to us all! First There, That Others May Live.
You have done a great job.I did not know Mark. I live in winston county and I will never forget Mark Forester thanks to him my grandsons have a good life
I will be forever gratefulll to this family.Thank you and may God take care of you.
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While I did not know Mark personally, I have been lucky enough to have worked with and known many of the men of the 21st STS.
They are an extremely proud and professional band of elite men.
I am sure heaven has become a better place with Mark’s arrival.